Social Transition ? what's that all about ?
To put it simply and briefly, social transition is when a trans person throws off the mask and cloak they have been hiding under trying to please others thus far...
I'd experimented with my identity before, but about 3 years ago I came to a realisation that the 'girl' part of me was a real thing... She began to manifest, she acquired a name, well she'd all ways had that name, it 's the name
my mum and dad would have given me if the midwife / doctor hadn't made that faulty assumption 41 years ago...
So over the next 18 months she had a lot of fun meeting people, exploring the world and so on... Then during the summer of 2017 Nicola Jayne sat 'that boy' down (sadly dear reader you won't be getting to know my dead name it was a phase that I'm well and truly over) and had a serious chat with him... he was a lovely boy, but he was an act, a tissue of lies trying to please others and frankly I would like full time control of things ...
So what did Nicola do next ? a semi agonising three days presenting as a boy in August (the longest I'd had to maintain that pretence for ages) - including uncloseting myself to my newly acquired #balletfamily at The Ballet Retreat sort of sealed it that boy was a diminishing presence...
September 2017 brought the following
Doctors appointment , baseline blood tests, Referral ... I'll talk about that in another post.
It also brought Email to my my Union Convenor at work 'can we meet I need to discuss something with you ...' then a meeting where I came out to my Convenor and we set up a meeting with my General Manager and HRBP to start the ball rolling for transitioning at work ...
there was another The Ballet Retreat scheduled for the beginning of January 2018 ( exactly one year to the date of this post) so there was an 'interesting' email exchange with the very fabulous Hannah Bateman co-owner and administrative goddess of The ballet Retreat informing her that ' that boy' wouldn't be coming in January because I was!
October 2017 took me down to London for a few days on business related to my old Job as a Nurse... I took the Opportunity to Surprise David Kierce whom 'that boy' had met in August by taking class with him at Central Nights... this would be the first public class I had taken rather than 'that boy' (i'd had private and semi private classes before) class was great ...
the rest of the year was a bit of a blur, with the usual pandemonium of 'Black Friday' and the run up to Christmas working for a retailer , slotting in more meetings at work to cement the plan and communication strategy for my transition ...
Then there's the endless chase of taking your Deed Poll around all the organisations you have services / contracts / accounts with ...
which brings us to one year ago today... see my next post.
I'd experimented with my identity before, but about 3 years ago I came to a realisation that the 'girl' part of me was a real thing... She began to manifest, she acquired a name, well she'd all ways had that name, it 's the name
my mum and dad would have given me if the midwife / doctor hadn't made that faulty assumption 41 years ago...
So over the next 18 months she had a lot of fun meeting people, exploring the world and so on... Then during the summer of 2017 Nicola Jayne sat 'that boy' down (sadly dear reader you won't be getting to know my dead name it was a phase that I'm well and truly over) and had a serious chat with him... he was a lovely boy, but he was an act, a tissue of lies trying to please others and frankly I would like full time control of things ...
So what did Nicola do next ? a semi agonising three days presenting as a boy in August (the longest I'd had to maintain that pretence for ages) - including uncloseting myself to my newly acquired #balletfamily at The Ballet Retreat sort of sealed it that boy was a diminishing presence...
September 2017 brought the following
Doctors appointment , baseline blood tests, Referral ... I'll talk about that in another post.
It also brought Email to my my Union Convenor at work 'can we meet I need to discuss something with you ...' then a meeting where I came out to my Convenor and we set up a meeting with my General Manager and HRBP to start the ball rolling for transitioning at work ...
there was another The Ballet Retreat scheduled for the beginning of January 2018 ( exactly one year to the date of this post) so there was an 'interesting' email exchange with the very fabulous Hannah Bateman co-owner and administrative goddess of The ballet Retreat informing her that ' that boy' wouldn't be coming in January because I was!
October 2017 took me down to London for a few days on business related to my old Job as a Nurse... I took the Opportunity to Surprise David Kierce whom 'that boy' had met in August by taking class with him at Central Nights... this would be the first public class I had taken rather than 'that boy' (i'd had private and semi private classes before) class was great ...
the rest of the year was a bit of a blur, with the usual pandemonium of 'Black Friday' and the run up to Christmas working for a retailer , slotting in more meetings at work to cement the plan and communication strategy for my transition ...
Then there's the endless chase of taking your Deed Poll around all the organisations you have services / contracts / accounts with ...
which brings us to one year ago today... see my next post.
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