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Fragile Masculinity

 Something which has become increasingly apparent to me is that  cisgender men really don't like  havign their ignorance shown up.  They will use whatever power they have to censure, gaslight and marginalise women who stand up to them and  who actually know about a topic.  They will also jump to the  defence of other misogynists  and take any notice  that misuse of process  will not be tolerated as a reason to double down and  threaten  women. they also as a spinal reflex threaten violence and/or exclusion.   

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So what is your excuse?

The Accursed Plague !

Perfectly Imperfect

Pre Christmas update

What have I become ?

More Dancewear related stuff

Annual Leave and the Recreational Dancer

dignity and frustration

Called to the Bar(re)

this blog

A Return to the Studio

Nice Name, did your mum pick it for you?

Anniversaries Part 2 - the impact of S28

Anniversaries part 1

Elective Surgery

More Radio Fun


Telling a Story

Mourning someone who never existed

What does a 'successful' Dance School look like ?


Some Anniversaries

The (disappointing) scores on the doors , Nicola's 2020 in dance

What do I call you ?

want a ballet body ?


Trans women and chest dysphoria

Mandatory Progression - A tale of two hobbies

Line up !

Playing Radio

Names as Insults.

A Safe Space

Private Classes - why as an adult recreational dancer might you go down this route ?

A story about a girl , Rethink, Reskill, Reboot

Comments on the Blog

If i had known then ...

What have I become ?

Lightbulb jokes

that poem

a Poem

Further down The Rabbit Hole : The private dance class.

Return to the Studio

What have I learnt in Lockdown ? (mental health edition )

What Have I learnt in Lockdown (Tech Edition #1)

What have I learnt in Lockdown? (ballet edition)

Ballet In Lockdown

Poster Girl

The privilege of apparently giving up privilege…