Mourning someone who never existed

 The 'someone who never existed' is the  mask that was worn by trans people a  mask nailed on by  society... 

At it's most  extreme we get  the concept of the 'trans widow' as  explored in Silent Witness Story  'Two Spirits' (a two Part pt.1 and pt.2) where  the story  looks at   the 'loss' of the character who turns out to be perpetrator

or  in  Abi Thorn's (Philosophy Tube) coming out video where she talks about some of these topics.

I personally find the whole topic very interesting, do I grieve for someone who never existed? 

No I don't why should I ? 'His' experiences are my experiences, just the mask and the leaden coat of  societal expectation was worn.