All The Small Things
No, not the Blink-182 song.
But instead all those little validations we receive through life, my own struggles with my gender identity and mental health have perhaps made me think , focus and reflect on this...
whether it's the yummy mummy in the supermarket saying to little Freddie "Freddie, don't stand there you are blocking that lady's way " when you are having a crappy day and feel despite your outfit, hair and makeup so dysphoric and meh ...
or the friend you haven't seen for absolutely ages
" you look fabulous and so happy, transition was obviously what you needed "... or even " wow you look so different and good , i didn't realise it was you until you spoke "
but it's in other things as well
When you have important visitors in your workplace and senior managers drop it on you ' Nicola can you look after these important visitors and show them some of the challenges of the current process' and they have the confidence that you'll be able to do that and not drop them , yourself or the team in it.
Or in ballet class ,when the teacher says " Nicola can you come to the front of the barre you are on " - that might not seem significant to the lay person , but it is - it's because the teacher is saying " I have the confidence that you will do this exercise correctly and to a decent standard so i want others to be able to see you and use you as a cue if they are unfamiliar with the exercise".
But instead all those little validations we receive through life, my own struggles with my gender identity and mental health have perhaps made me think , focus and reflect on this...
whether it's the yummy mummy in the supermarket saying to little Freddie "Freddie, don't stand there you are blocking that lady's way " when you are having a crappy day and feel despite your outfit, hair and makeup so dysphoric and meh ...
or the friend you haven't seen for absolutely ages
" you look fabulous and so happy, transition was obviously what you needed "... or even " wow you look so different and good , i didn't realise it was you until you spoke "
but it's in other things as well
When you have important visitors in your workplace and senior managers drop it on you ' Nicola can you look after these important visitors and show them some of the challenges of the current process' and they have the confidence that you'll be able to do that and not drop them , yourself or the team in it.
Or in ballet class ,when the teacher says " Nicola can you come to the front of the barre you are on " - that might not seem significant to the lay person , but it is - it's because the teacher is saying " I have the confidence that you will do this exercise correctly and to a decent standard so i want others to be able to see you and use you as a cue if they are unfamiliar with the exercise".
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